Simone Abrahamsohn, a Toronto resident, shared her experience of becoming her big brother’s primary caregiver following the passing of their mother this summer. Stuart, her neurodivergent brother, who is autistic and a left-brain stem stroke survivor, requires assistance with daily activities like feeding, transfers, grooming, and emotional support due to mood swings triggered by loud noises. Simone reflected on their childhood, acknowledging the challenges of having a neurodivergent sibling, and how she used to feel embarrassed by his behaviors.
Despite their differences, Simone and Stuart share similarities in managing their neurodivergent traits. Reflecting on her own struggles with ADHD, Simone discussed the adjustments she has made to accommodate Stuart’s needs, such as minimizing her own tendencies that may trigger his outbursts. She also highlighted the lack of support for neurodivergent individuals in the past, leading her to distance herself from Stuart’s experiences.
Now, as Stuart’s roommate, Simone aims to provide him with agency and involve him in decision-making, fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment for both of them. She expressed her commitment to their relationship, even making sacrifices like giving up her acting classes to prioritize his care. Through external support and a positive attitude, Simone is dedicated to creating a harmonious living situation for her and Stuart, embracing this opportunity to strengthen their bond and make up for past shortcomings.